At the beginning of this month, I came across ShareAmi, a website that connects French language students with elderly people in France. With the pandemic, many foreign students learning French had their internships, summer camps, cultural exchanges cancelled. They were worried about losing touch with the language. ShareAmi has managed to link nearly 7000 students with elderly native speakers, many in Parisian care homes. The Zoom calls have proven mutually beneficial. Students reported that finding subjects for conversation was much easier than they had imagined. (My own experience when learning foreign languages is that the older generation has superior phonetics and diction. Elderly ladies are the easiest to understand for a foreigner).
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Last week, I came across a study conducted in the USA.
Based on the interaction with 950 Americans, the study finds that the loneliest
group in the pandemic is age group 18-25. Even before the pandemic, young
adults were shifting to virtual interactions. The pandemic has made them lonelier.
Their main grievance, the study finds, is that nobody sincerely bothers about
how they are doing.
The second loneliest group is the elderly 70+.
It seems the pandemic has further widened the gap
between those two groups.
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I must point out this is an American study. Its
results may apply to rich nations and rich households. In countries like India,
where three generations routinely live together, this is not a problem, before
or during the pandemic. As a child, I was raised by my grandmother, while my
professor mother taught at the university.
The elderly possess a certain wisdom and life-long
experiences about love, work, friendship, mortality they can share with the
young. Young people, on the other hand, can teach them technology, have more pronounced
views on racism or climate change. The grandparent generation produced lots of
children, but the youngest have better sex education. My daughter can explain
LGBTQ+ to my mother. The elderly have lived through wars and epidemics. They
find it easier to believe the pandemic is temporary and will pass. During the Spanish
flu, multigenerational households were a global norm.
Covid-19 is the first pandemic where millions of
elderly and millions of young people are lonely. Loneliness is a pandemic
itself that is getting worse.
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Like the ShareAmi French language initiative, there
are other reports about these two lonely generations connecting with each other.
18-year-old Ella Gardner volunteered to shop and do
chores for the elders. For her anthropology paper, she extensively Zoom
interviewed her grandfather. Ella was always nervous about getting old. Her
interaction during the pandemic has convinced her ageing is a natural process,
and that older people can be very happy as well.
Sam Cozolino, 14, decided to use the lockdown to build
a family tree. He started contacting his relatives in the USA, and Italy where
his ancestors came from. This made Sam’s life busy and full of social
interactions. His paternal grandmother told him stories about the family
growing up in poverty in the USA during WWII. After hearing them, Sam realized the
pandemic was not half as bad.
In many countries, teenagers are volunteering to book
vaccine appointments for the elderly. Where vaccines are scarce, getting an
online appointment may require technical expertise and perseverance.
In Boston, a company called Nesterley has started a home
sharing service. Elders with extra rooms are matched with young people looking
for affordable accommodation. Nesterley has some uplifting stories. In one home
share that started during the pandemic, Michael Nelson, 28, a Harvard student
from Denmark rented a room from Laurinda Bedingfield, 67, a retired civil
engineer. Michael now bakes bread and cooks vegetarian meals for Laurinda. They
go for walks together. Once she gets both her shots, she has promised to teach
him photography and art.
“I feel much less isolated knowing that Michael is
nearby. I have a friend who lives on my property and I can call him any time if
I need help.” Said Laurinda.
Ravi
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