Saturday, June 19, 2021

Corona Daily 057: Internet’s Dad


Rob Kenney, who will turn 57 this year, is essentially an introvert. Happily married, his two grown up children are well settled. When the pandemic started, Rob thought of posting a few simple YouTube videos giving his kids some practical lessons based on his lifetime experience. Maybe another 30-40 people would view the clips.

On 3 April 2020, he posted a two minute video called “how to tie a tie?” It’s a simple visual demonstration of how any male can tie a tie. Even geniuses and male Noble laureates had to learn this skill from someone else. Rob’s video went viral. Instead of the 30-40 viewers he had expected, it was viewed 1.3 million times. Some viewers wrote to him that they sobbed watching the video because of the “dad vibes”.

This was followed by regular uploads of short clips: how to fix running toilets? How to polish your shoes? Get a close shave? Install a ceiling fan? Change the car tires? Make a pizza? Plant grass seeds? Fry an egg? Get a driver’s license? Replace a refrigerator filter? How to read a bible? And many others.

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Rob Kenney became an internet sensation. His YouTube channel which was named “Dad, how do I?” got 3.5 million subscribers with no soliciting. There were requests for TV interviews, thousands of daily comments from viewers, corporate job offers, invitations to host TV shows.

A British girl commented on a YouTube video: “I lost my dad when I was 3 years old and I don’t know how it feels to have a dad over my head. Can I call you my father please?”

Each of his videos starts with the words: hey kids. “Hey kids, today I am going to show you how to replace a car battery.” And ends with “I love you. I am proud of you. God bless you.”

Followers flooded Rob with personal stories about their parents, broken relationships, and traumatic experiences. They looked at the ‘Internet’s dad’ for comfort.

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Rob’s parents had divorced early. His dad gained custody of the children, as the mother was manic-depressive and alcoholic. His father found another woman, and left the eight children on their own. Rob was the seventh child, 14 at the time. He moved in with his 23 year old married brother, three of them living in a 280 sq foot trailer. Rob’s teenage life was full of anger, sorrow and mental trauma. He resolved he would never allow anything similar to happen to his own children. As he grew up, he learnt he was not the only fatherless kid. There were thousands without a dad; they needed a father figure in their life.

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YouTube is full of “how to….” Videos. Why did Rob Kenney stand out and became a father figure for millions? Primarily because of his warmth and simplicity. An unassuming fellow, he didn’t even ask anyone to subscribe to his channel. His videos are shot on his Samsung Galaxy phone, using the phone’s basic free editing software. After his becoming a sensation, his daughter handles his social media, including FB and Instagram pages.

When asked what distinguished his videos from other DIY videos, he gave a one-word answer: “heart”. There is more to being a dad or mom than just fixing things, parents must share their heart with the kids, he says. And that is evident in his videos. His tone is never patronizing, or paternal. It is more about ‘let us do this thing together’.

Rob reads passages from the Bible every morning. It adds calmness and clarity to his life. In the mornings, he stays off his phone and computers.

Last month, he has published his first book called: “Dad, How do I?” In a way it is an extension of his YouTube channel, the book offering ‘dadvice’ for everyday tasks and successful living. It has many more how to chapters than the YouTube channel.

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The surreal year for the Internet’s dad continues. Tomorrow, on Father’s day, Rob is likely to get thousands of emotional letters and emails again.

Ravi 

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