If he beats you, he
loves you. (Бьет – значит
любит): A Russian proverb
With more than half of the world’s population locked
down, the crime rate has reduced drastically. But one particular crime,
domestic violence, has shot up dramatically – in every country of the world.
Take the case of Japan. After the lockdown started,
Kazuo Makino, 59, a Tokyo resident, killed his wife at home. An unemployed
Japanese from Saitama killed his 85-year old mother, because he could no longer
take care of her. An 18-year old woman from Fukushima killed her 9-month old
son. A 22-year old Aichi woman killed her son born just nine days ago. Chieko
Yoshida, 45, from Kuji killed her husband. The list is long.
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Domestic violence is one of the most under-reported
crimes. Mainly it takes the form of the man in the family beating his wife or
children. Historically, this was accepted as a man’s birthright. In ancient
Rome, a father could legally kill his child. In many cultures, fathers could
sell their children as slaves or sacrifice them in rituals.
A 2014 report says one in every three women in
the world has been beaten, coerced into sex or abused in some fashion- usually
by someone she knows. Rape in marriage was raised as an issue fairly recently.
Demanding sex, even wife-assaults, has been the prerogative of a man. One
Bulgarian husband was tried for severely beating his wife. The judge asked him
if he understood what he had done, and would he please apologise, the man said,
‘but she is my wife’.
Children are spanked even today. Several studies have shown that children who are spanked begin to accept domestic violence as an
acceptable custom. Many of them in their adult life beat their wives and
children.
Tajikistan has an accepted family custom, where the
mother-in-law rags and tortures the newly arrived daughter-in-law. The same way
she was herself tormented after her wedding. Very similar to ragging traditions
in boys’ hostels.
Russia is a 100% literate nation. An average Russian
man drinks a bottle of vodka each week. One in four Russian families experience
domestic violence. As recently as 2017, the Russian parliament almost unanimously passed a law decriminalizing domestic
violence. A Russian man can now legally beat his wife or children, as long as
they don’t land up in hospital with multiple fractures. Also, it should not be repetitive.
The pass to truly thrash his family can be used once every year. The Russian
govt said family conflicts should not
be confused with domestic violence.
The Russian Orthodox Church, an enthusiastic supporter
of child spanking, said, ‘The reasonable and loving use of physical punishment is
an essential part of the rights given to parents by God Himself.’
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If this is the state of affairs in a literate country,
you can imagine what happens in illiterate nations. More on this subject tomorrow.
Ravi